tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3849246159237772246.post8039327092160174914..comments2023-04-20T14:45:47.010-04:00Comments on TTC Fatty: She reminds me why I never liked her to begin with.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3849246159237772246.post-47599628884328251412011-03-14T03:02:39.332-04:002011-03-14T03:02:39.332-04:00I just wanted to say I stumbled across your blog w...I just wanted to say I stumbled across your blog when searching around for realistic accounts of infertility and IVF; I really appreciate your honesty and it definitely makes me feel not quite so alone in a world full of people who can get pregnant quickly and easily. <br /><br />I've experienced a range of very inappropriate comments from friends and family over the many years of TTC. I think the ones that hurt the most are from people who you should be able to rely on for the most support, but unfortunately it doesn't always work out that way. Here's some tidbits of nastiness I thought you might relate to:<br /><br />- a close friend that I've known since high school, when we opened up and said we were having problems conceiving, immediately laughed and said, "well, my husband and I NEVER had that problem - pregnant first go!" To which he responded (also laughing) "yeah, so think yourselves lucky that you get to practice more than we did!"<br /><br />- the wife of my husband's best mate really rubbed my nose throughout her second pregnancy, refusing to engage in any discussions about our difficulties (even though they'd had problems TTC too) instead raving on about how uncomfortable she was and how all her friends are pregnant at the same time as her<br /><br />- a very good friend chose to tell me the news of her pregnancy in the middle of a crowded restaurant, when i was feeling particularly fragile (almost burst into tears, but managed to hold it together til i got home)<br /><br />- while visiting a good friend in hospital the day after she'd given birth to her first child (and the day after I'd had a laparoscopy to find out the cause of our infertility) said to me "don't ever get pregnant - childbirth is hell"<br /><br />So, there you go. I'd like to say all those comments were made by insensitive and stupid people, but that's not always the case. I find that it's most often plain old ignorance (and taking fertility for granted) that makes people say such hurtful things to people like us, who pray every day for the chance to have a baby of our own. <br /><br />Just know that you're not alone. And thanks for your blog, keep writing, please! :-)K_Bomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09584622212381022630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3849246159237772246.post-36374538482089980732011-03-07T17:41:25.370-05:002011-03-07T17:41:25.370-05:00Ugh, I can't believe she made a comment like t...Ugh, I can't believe she made a comment like that to you and your husband! I would have thrown her out of my living room.Kerrikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13206990230707526604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3849246159237772246.post-79842717033014454162011-03-07T09:19:35.655-05:002011-03-07T09:19:35.655-05:00I'm so sorry! That's soooooo awful that sh...I'm so sorry! That's soooooo awful that she said that!!!! I know she's your SIL but what a b*tch!!!!! And right after the m/c too. Again, I'm so sorry you have to go through this right now. Hugs to you....One Cycle at a Timehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03804135470401339449noreply@blogger.com